15.11.20

5 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem


If you struggle with your own self-doubt, like I do, then this could be down to having low self-esteem. This is how you feel about yourself, or the opinion you have about yourself, and can really affect your mood, and your mentality. Everyone has times when they feel a bit low or find it hard to believe in themselves, but sometimes this can become a long term situation and lead to low self-esteem.

What is Self-Esteem?
I'd describe self-esteem as your own inner voice – it's the voice that tells you whether you are good enough to do something, or achieve something, but it can also be the voice that stops you from doing these things too. Self-esteem is actually all about how we value ourselves, and what we are capable of. And how we talk to ourselves has a profound effect on how we habitually feel, including our self-esteem.

Realising that you have self-esteem issues and trying to combat this is the first step in giving your life a much needed boost. Here are a few ways in which you can help to boost your self-esteem. 

Challenge Your Negative Beliefs
The first step is to really identify your negative beliefs about yourself and then challenge them. Really start to think about what you are saying to yourself. Stop saying you're not clever enough, not friendly enough, not pretty enough, and look for evidence that contradicts those statements. Write them down if you have to as that's a great way to remind yourself that your negative beliefs about yourself are not true.


Give Yourself a Break
You know what, you don't have to be perfect every single hour of every day - you don't even have to feel good about yourself all the time. Self-esteem can really vary from situation to situation, and even from day to day depending on what you're doing. And people are all different too. Some people feel relaxed and positive with friends, but uneasy with strangers. Just give yourself a break. The key is not to be too hard on yourself.  It's important to be kind to yourself and not too critical. 

Build Positive Relationships
You will probably find that there are certain people, or even certain relationships that just make you feel better than other ones. If there are people that make you feel bad about yourself then try to avoid them as people who bring you down definitely shouldn't be in your life. Build relationships with people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid the relationships that drag you down. Try adult dating sites which can really help to get out out there and looking, and give a real confidence boost too. Sites like www.nostringsdating.net are really great for helping you look at people, learn about them and see whether they give you that happiness you desire. 

Learn to Say No
People with low self-esteem often find it hard to stand up for themselves or say no to others which can lead to even more issues. This means that they may end up becoming overburdened at home, or even at work, because they don't want to say no. However, all this does is to increase stress, and make it even harder to manage. Developing your assertiveness can therefore help to improve your self-esteem in the long run. So make sure you say no when whatever you're asked doesn't fit with what you want. 

Improve Your Physical Health
As someone who works out a lot, it is much easier to feel good about ourselves when we are fit and healthy. People with low self-esteem often neglect themselves, because they do not feel that they deserve to be looked after, but this is such an important thing to do. Try doing more exercise, even just a short walk each day to get out into the fresh air and have some time on your own. It is also a good idea to make time to relax and to do something that you want to do - yoga is a great way to be with yourself and relax. 

You may find that simple changes like these can make a huge difference to your overall outlook.

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