Need Some Change? Here's How to Get Through it

It can sometimes be difficult to know if this need for something new is just a passing feeling - or a sign that you really need a change in your life. We’re impulsive beings, after all, and will usually be advised to ‘sleep on it’ and not do anything rash so it makes sense to second-guess ourselves and wonder if a change really is for the best.

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Luckily, there are ways to figure this out for sure by digging a bit deeper and asking yourself the important questions. Here is a handful of ways to do exactly this so that you can get through it and feel a lot more confident about your decision.

Remind yourself of the pain
One of the main things that make us second-guess ourselves is, of course, that the need for something new in our life may be strong at one time and weaker at another. 

Exercising is a good example of this; we get highly motivated and sign up for a gym membership, only to feel less than motivated the day after. 

The problem is that you’re no longer feeling the pain that made you want to exercise - and you’re going to have to remind yourself about exactly how much you want it.

To a lot of people who are on a weight loss journey, this might mean looking at a picture of themselves and how they used to be. To others, it might mean imagining the feeling of being completely out of shape and having stuffed themselves with a large meal - the feeling sucks, and they don’t want to go back.

Connect the change with something positive
Another important factor in all of this is that the process might become a bit too difficult. Sure, when we felt the pain at its strongest, the changes you have to make may seem like an easy decision - but, when you’re in the middle of it, the process can feel quite overwhelming.

That’s when you need to rewire your brain slightly to connect these difficult changes with something positive. It could mean that you reward yourself after a hard hour at the gym, for example, or that you consider all the positive things that lie ahead if you get in touch with those expert divorce solicitors and end a toxic relationship once and for all.

By connecting the hard changes with a positive emotion, it will feel a lot easier - and you’ll be able to go through with it. 

Ask for help
Finally, it’s going to be so much easier to get to where you want to be if you seek support from those around you. Some therapy may also help, by the way, and will give you the boost you need to understand yourself a bit better and even change the way you’re thinking about yourself and the future.

Your friends and family will also be of huge help, though, and treating yourself to some time with them will also make everything a bit easier. Ask for their support, be open about the changes you’re trying to make and feel the support you’ll get in return.


  1. Excellent reading - friends are always so important

  2. Getting in that right mindset is always so hard, but once I do, I go with it. Asking for support is my weakness, it always makes me feel like I'm being a nuisance. I must try harder! Thanks for a great and uplifting post.