7 June 2018

How to Keep the Romance Alive When You Have Kids

It might have been easy to maintain your relationship when it was just the two of you, but it’s hard to keep the romance alive when there are kids in the mix. Your marriage is the foundation holding your family together, so a happy relationship equals a happy family. Sounds simple, right? In reality, however, it's not that easy.

If you settled down and started a family with someone, chances are you know that relationships can be hard and you get back what you put in. So how do you keep your relationship off the rocks when it’s so hard to find time as a couple? Here’s how to keep the romance alive when you have kids.


Maintain a Work/Life Balance
When you consider how life has changed in the past 100 years as Sun Life's campaign shows, it’s not surprising that divorce rates are on the rise. Parents are perhaps more isolated than ever with families spread out across the world, while many of us are trapped at home or in offices all day. All of this is hardly great for mental health and flourishing relationships, especially when you add in other factors like money troubles and pressure at work.

It stands to reason that if you’re stressed in your work life, this is going to spill into your relationship. Although you’ll want to share everything with your partner (the good and the bad), you should try to keep work and family life as separate as you can. That way you can focus on what truly matters when you are together and deal with the other problems separately.

Switch Off Your Phones
One way to reconnect with your spouse is to disconnect from technology when you have time alone together. This way, you can focus on each other without all those distractions. You don’t have to do this every evening, and it’s understandable to want to flop on the sofa together and watch TV after a hard day. Just try to schedule one night a week where you talk, play a board game, cook a meal or are intimate together without anything else in the background. A lot of research has been done on the effects of smartphones on relationships, so this one is a must if you want to keep the spark alive.

Make Date Nights a Priority
It is by no means new advice, but you do need to schedule time for just the two of you to reconnect as often as possible, preferably once a week. Ask a family member to look after your kids or find a good babysitter. Whatever you do, invest in this one area of your relationship, and you will reap the rewards. After all, you fell in love through dating each other, so it makes sense that you should keep dating if you want to stay in love.

Keep Your Roles Separate
It’s hard to transition from parent to partner, but it’s important to do this now and then if you want to keep the spark alive. Once the kids are in bed, do whatever you need to do to transition from mum to wife mode, whether that means taking a long bubble bath, putting on lipstick or drinking a glass of wine with your spouse.

2 comments:

  1. So important to MAKE TIME - Its far to easy to say WE DON'T HAVE THE TIME - reality is - you can if you really want to

    Feeling philosophical today 🤗🤗

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  2. So good tips here. I think its easy to forget that you need time together too!

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