All work, No Rest, No Play

Now don't get me wrong, I love being a mum. It's the thing I am most proud of in my life. The feeling of knowing that I brought those 2 boys into this world fills me with overwhelming pleasure. 

When they learnt to crawl, walk, and talk, I have this little voice in my head saying 'I taught them that', and no, before you say anything, I'm not crazy. I may talk to myself but doesn't everyone? Oh, no. It's just me then!

Seriously though, I sometimes look back on the day we've just come to end of and think to myself that I've done nothing for or by myself in that whole day. Everything was either with the children or for them. That sometimes does make me sad. 

I'm not saying that I wished they weren't here, but I think a bit of space is good for us and our children. Even they need to get out and meet new friends, socialize (no, I don't mean popping down the pub for a pint, I mean playing with other children) and interact to gain their own experiences and learn from other children too.

I realised that I haven't actually been out for over 2 years and even then we had Thomas with us and left after an hour so he didn't get bored. 

Now this probably doesn't come as a shock to parents reading this as I'm sure we're all in the same boat but I've decided to try and change a little.
I need to get out more. Even if it's just a quick coffee with a friend  or getting Simon to look after the boys whilst I don my hot pants to go out with the girls. I think sometimes mummies need to think about themselves too. 

I know that this probably wont end up happening though. I say it and would love to get out for a bit but I hate leaving the boys. Even though I know they'll be fine, I'm still apprehensive when having to leave them (I hated leaving Thomas at my mums whilst I was in labour with Charlie). 

How do I leave them without feeling guilty? What do you think? Do you go out without your children? Am I just being selfish?

-This is a sponsored post although everything wrote about in this post is my own writing and experiences

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  1. I guess I will have all this to worry about in the future then.
    I totally get what you mean about not wanting to leave your children.

  2. Anonymous19:43

    Space is a much needed thing hun, you really shouldn't feel guilty at all!

  3. Mine were only ever left with one very very very good friend, never for a night out as was not my thing, but to do essential things. The woman was a marvel, had 6 of her own and would happily take mine as well, having said that I would happily watch hers while she went out as well, her house was just one of those calm tranquil places even when full.

  4. It's every mum's worry so you are not alone :)