16 January 2018

I've Given Up Trying To Love My Body Imperfections

Everyday there is a new article online about how we should learning to love our bodies - in 3 easy steps or some other kind of target led strategy. And said articles are always full of women who have learnt to love their freckles, their bum, their tum, or all three and it's great to see.

Life isn't always about following what a glossy mag tells us to do. Not every body is the same and those 3 steps that works for one person, might not work for you. And it can be upsetting when something doesn't work like it says it will.

But here's the thing — I don’t love my body imperfections, and I don't think I should have to...

If I am being totally honest, I don't love my loose skin, or my flabby midsection, or my stretchmarks. I can, and I do, attend the gym regularly with a goal of toning my body, but those stretchmarks are here to stay. 

I am dreading wearing a bikini when we go abroad in 3 months. That's not because I am weary of what other people will say - I really don't care what others think of me - but what I feel about myself. 

I hate the even though I take care of my teeth, no brush and no flossing will help with the damage that molar incisor hypomineralisation caused me when I was a child. Braces might have fixed my teeth, but nothing I can do personally will improve them. 

Those things are what make us different from everyone else, and why should we want to all be the same - even if we don't like ourselves at the moment. Variety is the spice of life is what people say and so why shouldn't we appreciate that everyone is different in their own way - and everyone, even the most Instagram worthy person has their own body hang-ups, and that's fine. Because what you perceive as 'perfection' someone else sees as flawed. 

So does it matter what someone else looks like, as you'll never be them. I dislike my stretchmarks and my teeth, and I am the one who has to deal with it. But that doesn't mean that I have to love them...


  1. I totally agree, like you I don't like my stretch marks or teeth, my hips or tree trunk thighs, I suffer with dry skin and blotches on my face, no guide is going to make me either, but my fiance and children love me so I try to focus on the positives, I have tried bio oil but it hasn't really helped xxx

  2. Yes I agree! Yes stretch marks make me a mom however I don't have to like them. Strangely enough I am not keen on my teeth either. If I had the money I would have a cosmetic smile makeover on them. I look after myself as best as I can with self care. I guess I am perfect in my imperfections too as I read once Hmm

  3. I too have dry skin and it can be embarrassing when i'm out and about.

  4. l have struggled for so many years about my body and still 42 years on and l still dont like it. lf im honest l dont think l ever will either but as i'm getting older i'm slowly learning to live with them. Its so hard these days were everywere you look theres pictures of stick think women everywere. My fears are for the teenagers bow they grow up so much in the spot light, its scary.