You might want the perfect relationship with your other half, but a whole range of issues can get in the way of a happy and lasting partnership. If you’re struggling to keep your relationship strong, the following three problems may be at least partly to blame.
1. A lack of honesty
Honesty is the bedrock of good relationships. Without it, trust can quickly disappear and you might find that you and your partner start to drift apart. Of course, some issues are more difficult than others to be open and honest about. Whether it’s money troubles, jealousy or problems in the bedroom, you might find a range of topics tricky to discuss. However, no matter how awkward the issues may be to bring up, it’s important to make an effort.
Having a frank discussion about what’s bothering you can help to clear the air, and it’s important to realise that you’re not alone in your difficulties. For example, if you’re having problems between the sheets, bear in mind that sexual issues are common and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. From a loss of desire to pain during sex or problems with orgasm, as many as a third of women experience these issues. Meanwhile, the majority of men experience erection problems at some point during their lives. Trying to ignore these difficulties can drive a wedge between you and partner. In contrast, confiding in your other half can be the first step in getting the help you need to resolve the problem. There are a whole range of treatments available and you can get information and advice from your doctor or pharmacist.
2. Commitment issues
Perhaps you’ve been hurt in the past and don’t want to repeat the experience, or maybe you just like having your independence and don’t want to be reliant on someone else; whatever the cause, a reluctance to commit can be a major barrier to a happy relationship. If you think commitment issues are getting in the way of your partnership and you want to get over them, it could be worth speaking to a trained counsellor. These professionals can help you to understand your thought process and behaviour and they can suggest constructive ways to change your approach to relationships.
If your partner’s the commitment-phobe, consider suggesting to them that they speak to someone. You might also want to go to couples counselling to talk things through together.
3. You want different things
To go the distance with your other half, it’s really important that you want the same things in life. From your attitude to marriage to whether or not you want to have kids, you have to agree on the big things. As heartbreaking as it might be, if you and your partner have fundamentally different goals, it might be best to go your separate ways. Often though there’s room for compromise. The key is to talk about these issues and not to simply make assumptions about what your partner wants. This can lead to resentment and arguments further down the line.
It’s not always possible to make relationships work, but if you’re prepared to put in the effort and you take advice like this on board, you stand the best possible chance of going the distance with your partner.