Before I had children, I always thought I would do everything by the book. To be honest, I think everyone thinks that way. Oh, I'll be the perfect parent. My baby will sleep through from day dot, in his own cot, and I'll get a lovely lie-in because I'm just that perfect of a parent.
But alas, that doesn't happen, us parents end up just winging it most of the time, trying to juggle parenthood and doing the right thing whilst bribing our children with chocolate and toys.
And that got me thinking about our sleeping arrangements now that I've had three children. Although we all have our own beds, that doesn't mean that they're all actually filled every night. I have co-slept with all my children and although there are ups and downs to this, I would never have it any other way.
When designing our bedroom, we looked at double beds and found the perfect one for us, but then after having a baby we had to change to a king size, just because he kept kicking us out. It gave us that extra bit of space so the baby could share with us if he wanted to.
It was lovely to have my baby so close to me at night, and actually helped him sleep too. I mean, as long as you're doing it safely, it means that you could those extra hours you need without having to constantly get up to sort your baby at their cot-side.
Now that the littlest is now a bit older, he doesn't really come in with us any more. And although I know this is a good thing, that he's now comfortable in his own little space, it does give me sadness that I don't get those extra night time snuggles.
But then again, and unfortunately for my husbands wallet, this now gives me an excuse to redo our bedroom again now we don't need such a big bed (although I am quite getting used to being able to starfish out at night). The Bedsos Time living selection is such an amazing range and I've been eyeing up a beautiful black real leather bed.
All of this does get me thinking though, why do we strive to be perfect? Does it matter that we are all different? Some co-sleep, some don't. People are different. Babies are different. And what works for your family is the thing you should do.