22 April 2016

The Hypocrisies of Being a Parent

When you get that first glimpse of your baby, that's it, life is perfect. In that moment, there is nothing better. You will do everything you possibly can to make sure your baby gets everything they need. And you will do everything in your power to make sure you are doing the best for your child. 

But then that moments passes, and people wade in. Then it becomes a constant battle of 'this is better', 'that is better', 'oh, you shouldn't be doing that', 'you're creating a rod for your own back'. Yeah, that!

And no matter what you do, someone will disagree with how you parent, what you choose for your baby and anything that you do, because, well, some people just like being judgemental. So today, I thought I'd write about the hypocrisies of being a parent. Those times when you can't do right for doing wrong...



1. Being a mum is hard when breastfeeding in public is offensive and 'showy-offy' but then again, formula feeding is frowned upon as 'breast is best' and you're just a lazy parent, thinking about yourself.

2. Sleep training means that you don't love your baby but then again, if your child doesn't work to your schedule and routine, then you have no control over your kids.

3. Thinking of co-sleeping? Oh no, what is this hippy nonsense. Not only are you creating a rod for your own back but it is also dangerous. Don't forget though, don't rock your baby to sleep as you are just pandering to them then. 

4. Using disposable nappies is ruining the environment and irresponsible, yet reusable nappies is just the latest trend and you'll always be washing.

5. Holding your child too much is spoiling them. Oh, but don't ever put them in a bouncer or walker as these are detrimental to their development and it's just lazy parenting. 

6. Weaning using jars is just lazy parenting and you don't even know what are in those things. But don't forget, feeding them what you have is bad for them as there's too much salt, sugar, spices, and on, and on, and on...

7. Being a stay at home mum means that you are just a lazy bum who has given up on their career, whereas going to work and using childcare 'well you might as well have not had kids if you're not bringing them up' and you'll miss out on every milestone. 

You know what, does it matter, does any of it matter? As long as we are all trying to be confident parents, any way is best, as long as your child is getting what they need. 

So you know what, do it your way. Do what you think is best. And don't let anyone tell you that you're doing it wrong...

17 comments:

  1. This is so true. Everything is wrong in someones eyes. I hate the eay people judge before they know the full story x

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  2. Oh my goodness, well said! All you can do is your best and take no notice of other peoples opinions..... everyone does it differently and no method is best for every child as every child is different! Thanks for sharing x

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  3. Totally agree with your points. Must commend you calling this nonsense out!

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  4. You just can win...When it comes to parenting you can't please everyone and you shouldn't have to!

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  5. Love this! I decided straight away that no-one was going to make me feel bad for the decisions I made as a parent. It really helped me get by at baby groups and check ups :) x

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  6. This is so true and I have found people really don't like it when u do what they don't like u can never win!

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  7. This is so true. You can never win, can't you? Whatever you do, there will always be someone judging.

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  8. Amen to every word of this, so true. There will be judgement in all corners of live unfortunately!

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  9. completely agree. The breastfeeding one is a particular bug bare of mine. Don't push us to do it so much if we're going to be shamed and called a show off when we actually do it!

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  10. So very true. I've found judgement from so many different people for the way we parent. I find the breastfeeding/formula one especially annoying as I believe you should feed them as you wish and that some mother's don't get a choice if they can breastfeed or not. I found judgement for health visitors on breastfeeding in one voice saying breast is best but then knocking me for breastfeeding alongside weaning from 6 months on rather than giving formula. You can never win! Along as baby/kid and parents are happy who cares!

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  11. you definitely can't win and I think parenting is such an emotive subject that sometimes when people do it differently they can see the way you do it as a criticism of theirs! x

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  12. It's so true, and the most critical aren't even parents a lot of the time!

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  13. So true
    People will always judge others
    If it's right for your child do it

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  14. So true
    People will always judge others
    If it's right for your child do it

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  15. I have been nodding my head to all of this

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  16. Very true! Very sad that nothing you do is ever right, but that's why the biggest challenge is getting past other people opinions and what other's think. Only what you believe is what matters at the end of the day.

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