30 May 2015

Win An Extreme Security Package From ZoneAlarm

Working online, I have to make sure that my laptop is protected to the maximum as, if the worst was to happen and a virus took hold, I would have no way of doing my work until a new one is purchased. That's why it is always important to have antivirus software installed on to any computer that will be going online at some point. 

So today I bring to you an absolutely fabulous giveaway from one of the most secure internet security brands, ZoneAlarm, who are giving one of you lucky readers one-year subscription to the Extreme Security package.

The Extreme Security Package is the best ever protection that you could get for your laptop or pc. From antivirus and firewall protection, to web security, online backup of your files and the amazing 'Find My Laptop' feature. 

So, lets get a little techy shall we?
The Extreme Security package include advanced real-time antivirus which provides access to an up-to-date database of antivirus signatures to protect against newly emerging threats and the antivirus detects and removes viruses, spyware, Trojan horses, worms and bots. The two-way firewall stops internet attacks as they are on their way in and even as they are trying to leave pro-actively protecting your pc against inbound and outbound attacks whilst having a Full Stealth Mode which makes you invisible to hackers.

It has an improved pc tune-up function that keeps your pc running smoothly by cleaning, organizing and streamlining your computer so it runs faster and the system-maintenance programme is so light on resources that you’ll hardly even know that it’s running.

For me, the part that I think is amazing, is the Find My Laptop feature. When the Extreme Security package is installed onto your pc, it uses Wi-Fi enabled location tracking to find and display the location of your stolen or missing laptop on a map including the address it is at. It will remotely lock your laptop to prevent intruders from accessing your data and will backup and retrieve all your important files whilst deleting sensitive information. Not only that but the programme will use your webcam to take snapshots of any person trying to use your laptop and send them to you for full protection. 

Including parental controls with powerful filters to stop children from accessing dangerous or adult content and you can also create your own 'block list' of websites that you don't want you children on, as well as blocking chat rooms and pc games that are rated too mature or too violent.

So, for your chance to win the Extreme Security Package from ZoneAlarm and keep your laptop or pc protected to the max for one year, please enter via the Rafflecopter form below. Please note that your laptop or pc will need system requirements of Microsoft Windows XP, Vista, 7, 8 or 8.1 to be able to install this software. 

Ends midnight 14th June 2015

Please remember to check our full T&C's here. This giveaway is open to the UK only and any entries left that do not follow the required entries will be disqualified. After the one mandatory entry, others will open up to give you extra entries. You do not have to enter by all methods but these will give you extra entries into the competition if you do. 

And please, if you are commenting on the blog as 'anonymous' can you please write your name in the comment otherwise I cannot count your entry.

25 May 2015

#TruprintDads Take Amazing Photos

My husband loves taking photos. In fact, even though I take zillions, he actually outdo's me with the amount he takes. Most of the family ones that are on the blog are from him and he seems to just be able to get the biggest smiles, the perfect grimaces, the beautiful light.

And so, when it came to Father's Day, I knew that I wanted to get him something to show off just how good he is at taking photos of our children and the memories that he has captured on camera throughout the years. Truprint is perfect for this as there are many items that can be personalised to show memories that he has helped to create. 

To start off, I went with one of my most favourite photos that he has taken of the boys and turned it into a fridge magnet. This means that now, when ever someone walks in our house, they are greeted with our children's lovely mugs, right there, holding on to something that one of the kids has made, proudly showing it off on the fridge. 

Choosing a mug, I wanted it to be more sentimental for my husband, after all, he would be the one that's drinking from it everyday. So, even thought one side has a photo of the boys kissing their little baby brother, the other side has 3 photos. One taken at each of my births, of my husband and the newborn at that point. A little gift to show my husband having his very first hold of our children. 

For his main present, I decided to go with a photo, not of him, but one one that he had taken of our youngest, Joseph. You see, over the years, my husband has taken thousands of photos, but there has always been that one, the one that stood out, and I would have them made into canvases. Each of the boys have a canvas of them as a newborn in a gorgeous artsy style pose, and it is something that we can look back on, admire and my husband will forever know that he took those shots of the kids. 

So for Joseph, I chose the one of him trying to eat his thumb. he was only a week or so in age and my husband just seemed to capture such a beautiful moment which just stood out from the rest of the photos. I cannot wait for my husband to open this on Father's Day as I know that it will be something that he truly appreciates. A memento made by himself. 

And lastly, as a bit of humour, I had to go with a funny photo on his Father's Day card. Something that I know will make him chuckle and a truly unique card, made just for him. A selfie in his shades, trying to look cool with Thomas' toy cap-gun. he hates me sharing this photo as apparently 'it's embarrassing' but I know that he will find this totally hilarious when he opens the card. 

I know that on Father's day, my husband will be the happiest dad on the planet, knowing that these gifts are photos taken by himself and gifts to cherish forever more. 

If you are thinking of ordering from Truprint then you could get up to £30 off your order
  • Use the code LOVEMYDAD to give a £10 discount on orders between £20-£49.99 and £30 discount on orders £50 or more
  • Minimum spend does not include P&P charges
  • Offer is valid until midnight 15th June 2015.
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24 May 2015

What To Do Whilst The Kids Are Away

It's not often that my husband and I get to spend some time together without the kids as I hate leaving the boys and, finding someone to look after 3 kids is hard work. No one has the space or patience to do so . 

In a few weeks though, my sister has asked if she can look after Joseph overnight. She is taking her daughter and her granddaughter (who are both a couple of weeks older than Joseph) to a professional photographer and wanted to take Joseph too so that she could get all 3 of them together in some photos. 

With the photographer being a few miles away, he is staying overnight and will be with her all day afterwards and so, to give us a bit of a break, my parents said that they will have the boys overnight also, giving my and the hubby some quality time together.

So, what to do when you don't have the kids for a whole day? Catch up on the 6 years of lost sleep? Spend the day sorting the house out? No, we're going to London for a bit of relaxation and retail therapy. 
Photo by James Barker from freedigitalphotos.net
Staying at the Holiday Inn Brent Cross, we are a stones throw away from Brent Cross Shopping Centre and there is actually a shuttle service that goes to and from the centre to the hotel which means that we can easily get our shopping haul back to our room without trawling public transport. 

It gives us quite a central base of the areas we want to visit. The hubby wants to go to Wembley Stadium for a photo op of him in front of it, and to see if he can book a sneaky tour of the beautiful stadium. There is also the London Underground station quite near to us so that we can pop into central London for some retail therapy in all the high-end stores. 

Whilst there, we plan on having a long walk around all the sights that London has to offer. well, maybe not all of them, we'll see how many we can manage in one go. I'd love to see Big Ben and Tower Bridge whereas my hubby want to visiting Downing Street and Buckingham Palace. Apparently, visiting Big Ben at night is amazing and so we could do this before popping for our evening meal. 
Photo by Vichaya Kiatying-Angsulee from freedigitalphotos.net
Walking along the Thames hand in hand, seeing the boats sailing and having a jaunt across to the London Eye, it will be amazing to see these places without having to worry about the boys running off or getting bored. Having some adult time to take in the sights and have a wonder. 

No doubt we will miss the boys loads and will adore getting back for hugs and cuddles with them, but for that one night, we are going to enjoy ourselves as a couple for a change and I think after 6 years, we deserve a night off.

Have you visited London? Where do you advise that we should visit whilst there?

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21 May 2015

10 Things Everyone With A Newborn Are Guilty Of Doing

When it comes to having a newborn, there are so many things that we all do, that we possibly don't know is the 'done thing' to do. We don't talk about it in case other people think we're stupid or weird and instead keep it inside wondering how we got it all so wrong.

Well I'm here to tell you that you're not wrong, you're not weird or stupid. Every parent goes through this part of parenting and here is my list of 10 things that everyone with a newborn is guilty of doing...

1.  Poking your baby to make sure they're still breathing.
Yes, everyone does this! You know that point where you peek over the side of the moses basket and give your baby a little prod, just to check. I used to hold my hand over my babies chests too to see if I could feel them breathing.

2.  Having an emotional meltdown.
A couple of week in, you'll be thinking that it's a doddle. You don't know why people say having a newborn is hard, and then something will happen. It could be something small like being woken up during the night or a full-on nappy explosion. Something will happen though and you'll have an 'I can't do this' moment. Don't worry, hold in there and the feeling will pass. Sometimes all the emotion, all the hormones mixed with being so, so tired can affect you in this way. 

3.  Using your baby as an excuse.
'Oh, you want me to come round to yours?, I'm sorry but the baby has a sniffle so I just couldn't leave him at this moment.' Yes, that is a big fat fib, but sometimes our babies are the best excuses!

4.  Already judging other parents.
We all say that we wont do this, but in fact, we all do. You could be sat on the bus giving a discerning look as a baby is being fed chocolate or walking past McDonald's pointing out all the children that are in there and just how bad it is for them. Everyone has different parenting styles and what is normal to you may be weird to someone else. So just remember, as you are judging someone, there is probably someone judging you too.

5.  Social media surge.
Oh yes, a baby has been born. You know how I know this? Because there are about 5 million and 33 photos posted to Facebook every 30 seconds just so I don't miss out on the first time they smile, roll over, fart... yes, we all do this! 

6.  Taking arty photos of your baby’s fingers and toes.
Because nothing says 'I love my baby' like a black and white photo of them holding your finger. Come on, that's just what love is!

7.  Trying to act in control of the situation when you visit your GP/Health Visitor.
The first few weeks of a baby's life is so hectic. Not only are you learning about your baby but you have a million appointments to go to with the midwife, health visitor and your 6 weeks check with your GP. Trying to hold it together and act sane during these appointments is hard, especially when you've had no sleep and still have yesterdays sick ridden clothing on.

8.  Trusting some family members more than others to hold the baby.
There is that one person that you would trust with you baby just a little more than anyone else. And then, on the other hand, there is the total opposite of the person that you would never leave your child with, and when they ask you have to make all sorts of excuses as to why your baby just HAS to come with you because you just couldn't bare to be away from them.

9.  Having to suppress the urge to whack the heck out of people who ask how much sleep you're getting.
Newborns just don't sleep, they just don't so assume that whilst I have a baby under the age of 1 (maybe up to the age of 5!!!) that I have had no sleep and just don't ask. 
I'm sure we've all gone through the stress of waking in the night for the 5th time in the past 4 hours and feel like 'This isn't happening. This IS NOT HAPPENING!!! This is some horrible dream. I'm going to be forever sleep-deprived until I die a slow, sleep-deprived death, curled up in a ball on the floor.' Yep, that feeling. But it does pass... eventually!

10. And lastly, just loving your baby
No matter how we judge each other, how your baby sleeps or whether you do actually have a hold on the situation, we all love our children and want the best for them. So even if you haven't had a full nights sleep for the past 6 years (that's me!) you know that they are your world and will always come first, no matter what!

19 May 2015

TensCare - Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser

A few month ago, just after I'd had Joseph, I wrote about pelvic floor muscles and how pregnancy can affect them. I write about how I would be using the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser over the next few months to see whether it made a difference in improving the strength of the pelvic floor muscles at all and now I am back to give my findings.

The Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser is an easy-to-use, flexible pelvic floor exerciser with a range of clinically tested programs, providing relief from stress, urged and mixed incontinence as well as improving sexual well-being. And what's more, it has been awarded the ECRM Award for Most Innovative Product 2015.

It works in a variety of different ways to help to control different aspects of the pelvic floor depending on what needs strengthening, but basically the Elise works by sending a gentle stimulation to your pelvic floor through a vaginal probe working your pelvic floor muscle for you. It gently strengthens and tones your pelvic floor muscles which in-turn improves the symptoms of incontinence or to strengthen the muscles back up after pregnancy.

Pelvic floor muscles are so important as they hold your pelvic organs, the uterus, vagina, bowel and bladder in place. Supporting the bladder and bowel to give you control when you urinate. As you get older, your pelvic floor muscles get weaker and pregnancy also has a big effect on your pelvic floor muscles too. As, for the whole 9 month of pregnancy, the baby, amniotic fluid and placenta are resting on top of your pelvic floor muscles causing them to stretch and become weaker. 

Weakened pelvic muscles can cause problems such as urinary incontinence and reduced sensitivity during sex which is why you will be given leaflets after birth, telling you the importance of doing pelvic floor exercises to keep them toned and to strengthen them too.

So when I was given the chance to try out the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser, I knew that it would be a great part of post-partum pregnancy to talk about and something that people don't talk about a lot.

I'm sure we all know that squeezing a baby out of your bits will mean that everything will change down there and this little contraption is here to help when it comes to trying to restore some of the strength that us women need in our pelvic muscles. I'm sure you all agree that we don't really want to be wearing pads just in case I sneeze or someone tells a jokes that tickles me. 

To benefit fully from using the Elise, it is to be used every day with each session lasting for 20 minutes using it for a period of 12 weeks to get full benefit. The Elise has a One Touch Memory which remembers the last program, strength and settings used and will turn off after 20 minutes to ensure the pelvic floor muscle is not overworked.

Using the exerciser is super easy. You switch it on by holding the on/off switch for a few seconds and then it's best to test the probe in your hand first, by holding it tightly and metal plates on the probe with your skin and then increase the intensity by pressing the + button until you can feel the stimulation. Once it's at the right setting, turn off the machine.

Put a little water based gel lubricant onto the probe and then insert with the two silver plates side to side, one of the silver plates on the left and the other on the right. Then turn it on and press the 'P' to select your programme of choice and if you need to increase the intensity, just press the + button. The programme will then start and will run for 20 minutes until it has finished. You then remove the probe and give it a thorough clean.

When you next go to use the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser, it will remember the settings that you last used so no need to keep setting it up. 

I have now been using the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser for 12 weeks which is the recommended amount of time to see proper results. After 3 children, I am happy to say that the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser is a godsend. No more having to hold my groin as I sneeze or wear a pad when I'm not feeling well and get the urge to cough, no more ‘laughter leaks’.

My pelvic muscles now feel stronger, the feels tighter and no doubt that I could probably crack a walnut with them if I tried (the latter may not be true hehe!). Using the Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser has not only helped me with my problems in the pelvic area but it has given me piece of mind when going out and about, knowing that I don't need to use a pad and can actually play on the trampoline without fear of leakages. 

For more information about TensCare and The Elise Pelvic Floor Exerciser, pop over to the TensCare website and if you would like to purchase the Elise, the lovely people from TensCare have given me a code for 20% off if you buy via the TensCare website. The code is YORK20 which you just add into the coupon box to get the discount.

16 May 2015

Prints With Feelings - Animal Letter Print

Prints With Feelings was born back in February 2014 with the creation of a turquoise Home Sweet Home print. Now though, you can find something beautiful, unique and something to make you smile on their website which has a plethora of prints of different kinds with something suitable for everyone.

From the start of 2015, interactive software was integrated onto the site which meant that you can now also personalise the prints and create your very own unique, wonderful print from scratch with the added benefit of having a live preview to see what your print will look like before you purchase it.

When I started following them over on Twitter, I knew straight away that I just had to have one of their prints and was delighted when they offered to send us one to see what we thought of them. After searching and searching for what seemed ages, I finally made a decision on the one that I wanted. It was hard as the new style Family Tree print is stunning as is the Personalised Heart Print. I decided on the Animal Letter Print though as we are currently sorting out the spare room which will become Joseph's nursery and I thought that this would fit in perfectly in there. 

The Animal Letter Print is perfect for a child's room and is a quirky little design. With each print being customised with an animal to match the letter of the name and space for a message underneath too.You just add the name and message and Prints With Feelings will do the rest. 

Receiving the print, I was happy to see that it is fantastic quality. The print itself, priced at £14 (£28 with frame)has 'J is for Joseph' at the centre with a jellyfish at the side. I chose a message for underneath which reads 'Bring me sunshine, Bring me laughter, Bring me love' as I thought it was apt for a babies room.

Printed on high quality 300GSM smooth silk card, they are designed, printed and packed in house in their very own studio and come in either A3 or A4 sizes. You can even choose to have it framed with either or black or white frame. These are made from high quality mdf and come with either glass or Perspex.

All in all, I love the Animal Letter Print which I received from Prints With Feelings and it matches perfectly into Joseph's nursery and everything he has too. The high quality print looks beautiful in the thick black frame and makes his room look so pretty with his own unique print, just for him.

Prints With Feelings not only offer beautiful customisable prints for the whole family, but they have now also added Tote Bags, Cushions and Mugs to their product lines with can all be found on the Prints With Feelings website

7 May 2015

Making the Most of a Child-Free Night!

Being a parent is amazing, but sometimes you just can’t wait to get a few hours to yourself. Okay, there is the time when they’re at school or nursery, but in that time we’re either getting the house in order or at work ourselves so it’s never really “down time” as you might call it. 

Once they’ve gone to bed you get a little bit, but again you find yourself either tidying or too tired to do much more than collapse on the sofa or go to bed yourself. As such I do find myself looking forward to the occasional child-free night.

When they go and stay with friends for tea and a sleepover, I make sure I think long and hard about the things I want to do that night. After all, who knows when I might get the chance to do these things again! 

Here’s the latest list of to-do’s:
Photo by TheresOnlyOneWay from vecteezy.com
Film Night
There are numerous films that have come out at the cinema, then come out in shops on DVD that I still haven’t got around to watching. If I’m not careful the kids will be old enough to watch them before I do! I’m desperate to watch the new Avengers movie, I’m a huge Marvel fan and love just about all the films they’ve released and it’s great that I can talk about some of them with the kids. This is on my list even if it means going out relatively early (I can’t stay out too late anymore!)

I make no secret of the fact that I enjoy playing bingo. I love going along to my local hall with some friends and having a bite to eat, a drink or two and trying to win some cash all in one place. The most I ever won was £100 but I can dream of more! 

Recently I’ve tried online bingo to see what all the fuss is about there and I must admit I do like it. Obviously it’s different to ‘normal’ bingo because you don’t get as much social interaction, but you can look online for some of the best online bingo offers in the UK so that you play the games with the best chance of winning or the cheapest registrations. I haven’t played it a great deal so it’s on the list to play a bit more when I get my feet up!

 Photo by domdeen from freedigitalphotos.net
The Gym
It’s a bit of a contrast to the other two ideas on my list, but I do miss the gym. I’m still a member and go as often as I can when I get a few hours but I always feel rushed. I like doing spinning classes and body pump which uses weights and free exercises - it’s a real workout I tell you, you’ll know about it the next day! It would definitely be nice to try out a few other classes though.

Stock Up At The Asda Baby And Toddler Event

It's that time of the year again when Asda have their Baby And Toddler Event which means that it's my time to go mad and stock up on nappies, wipes and see what other deals they have. Joseph is now 12 week old so this is the time that I start to stock up on everything that we will need over the next few months. Plus, we are sorting out his nursery ready for him to go into his own room so I've been checking out what Asda have this time round. 

It's a really good job that we have loads of storage space in our house as I usually buy around 10 boxes of nappies when the event is on, just so I know I'm getting a deal and they'll last for ages. What with these, baby wipes (which I buy by the box too), clothing in the next size up, weaning products and toys, we are not short of baby things now this event has come. 

So, let have a look to see what they have on offer this time round. Here are my top picks. 

Baby Changing
This event sees the huge Pampers Baby Dry Jumbo Pack nappies on deal at 2 boxes for £20. That's a huge saving and a lot of nappies as each box (based on size 3) contains 90 nappies. You can also pick up boxes of Johnson's Extra Sensitive Baby Wipes for £6.97 or Asda's Little Angels ones for £6, each box containing 12 packs which is an absolute bargain. 

The warm weather is slowly starting to creep in too and so Asda have created their own little bundle deals, perfect for being on your holidays in the sunny weather. The Little Swimmers Bundle (£11) contains Nivea Sun Kids Swim & Play Sun Lotion, Huggies Little Swimmers pants and a Huggies Little Swimmers Hygiene Mat. 

All babies should have a bit of playtime and so it's great to see that Asda have a huge range of toys and accessories perfect for fun play with your baby. I love the Red Kite Cotton Tail Play Gym as it is suitable for either sex and is only £12. It's a nice thick playmat with a detachable toy bar which has 4 hanging toys to keep babies busy.

When it comes to buying places for your baby to sit, I always go for a bouncer as not only are they a comfortable alternative to being laid on a mat on the floor, but they are comfortable and babies can sleep in them for short periods of time too. This Bright Starts Bouncer is only £16 and comes complete with a toy bar as an added extra. 

We have the Summer Infant Slumber Buddies frog for Joseph. It plays tranquil lullabies and soothing heartbeat and nature sounds whilst having a calming starry night display which projects onto the ceiling in 3 soothing colour options.

Sorting the nursery can be hard work. Trying to think of a design and then buy things that work well together to make a complete bedroom, perfect for a little boy. It's great to see that Asda do their very own nursery bedroom range which has everything you will need for the room, all coordinating so you can decorate with ease. We have the George Baby Prince curtains for Joseph's room. They are white and blue thick fabric with the added extra of being blackout curtains too. A snip at only £20 for the pair. You can also get the Quilt Coverlet to match too as well as blankets, a nappy holder and light fittings too. 

Asda sent us the Mamas & Papas Babyplay Magical Mirror out for Joseph and to put in his room once it is finished. This is a soft cushioned toy with bright colours to keep babies stimulated, a baby-safe mirror to help recognition, a teether toy and has "Magical" thread which means that baby only has to brush their finger over the stitching in the 2 corners in order to activate sounds. 

I love it as you can place it on the floor for tummy time which I fully promote as it help babies to gain confidence in holding their heads up and in moving and controlling their bodies better to see around their room. Not only that but it has little straps which fasten to the side of the cot so can help to keep your baby occupied whilst they are playing in their cot. 

The Asda Baby And Toddler Event isn't on for that much longer so make sure you get down their quick to pick up a bargain. You can find all these items and more on the Asda website or  instore.

3 May 2015

Win £25 To Spend At Swimshop.co.uk

With the Summer holidays just around the corner, now is the time to get prepared and get yourself, or your kids, beach ready so this week I have teamed up with SwimShop.co.uk to offer you the chance to win £25 to spend on swimwear, swimming accessories or anything else from their online store.

From swimming costumes uk top brands, to accessories and baby swimming items too, such a huge range to choose from.

Me personally, if I had £25 to spend on their site, I would treat myself to the Speedo Sculpture costume as it has stretch shaping fabric and narrows both the torso and the waist. An inner bra gives support, whilst the 360ยบ tummy, waist and bottom control naturally smooths curves. 

If you were to win, what would you pick? Well, entry is super simple, just follow me, @Yorkshire_Mummy on Twitter and Retweet the following tweet...

This competition is open to UK residents only and you can read my full terms here. A winner will be picked at random and tagged on Twitter shortly after the closing date of 9am Monday 11th May 2015.

1 May 2015

How Your Last Child Changes Everything

Last night, Joseph woke up shortly after I'd fed him his night-time feed. He was upset and disturbed so I slowly picked him up and placed him in to bed with me. Holding him in my arms, I stared at him as he drifted off back to sleep. Just mesmerised in his love as he reached out and grasped my hand with his tiny little fingers, studying his face so that I could remember it forever. 

Knowing that today was coming and what that signified, made me just want to hold him even tighter for that little bit longer.

Today is a big day for us. Today is the day that my husband goes for a vasectomy. Even though this day has been coming for a while now, it hasn't stopped me feeling emotional today. My mindset has changed with this baby. As I watch him grow and bond with his brothers, learn to walk, talk, his first tooth, all of his firsts are the lasts for me. 

You see, I love children. I love having a baby and, would have loads if I could but realistically, we had to think about us and our family, about how we could cope, and in conclusion, financially we can't afford any more children, emotionally we can't and due to health reasons, this was the last nail in the coffin when it came to making this decision. 

Pregnancy makes me ill, ridiculously ill, to the point where I cannot work or even eat and this means that I am no good to my kids whilst going through it. I let them down and cannot do anything that we have planned. So we made this decision together, based on everything, that 3 children was our limit. 

Since Joseph was born, I have been different, motherhood seems different. I'm no longer impatient in wanting him to grow up quick. waiting for the milestones to show how he's developing, and instead I'm desperately wanting to slow down time so that I can focus more and be in these moments for just that little bit longer. 

Worrying that one day, he'll be older and wont want to cuddle mummy quite as much, so take every opportunity to have him snuggled in my arms. Letting him drift off to sleep on me and just gripping to these moments so I don't lose them. With my first child, I followed all the advice, not holding him for too long, not picking him up straight away when he cried, parenting the ways the books told me to, afraid that letting him be any different would be spoiling him. But you know what, doing what you think is right as a mother is not spoiling them.

I've become such much more aware of the time and how fast it goes. Not wanting to admit that I no longer have a newborn baby, I still have all his clothing, waiting for me to be ready to send them off to be made in to his own little plush toy made from his very own newborn clothing. But how, how can he be nearly 3 month old. It seems like time is passing even faster than before and so I am now taking every moment I can to slow down and just be there, in that moment. 

And you know that stuff, those things that you would usually want to get done straight away, those things can wait. The dishes in the sink can wait, it doesn't matter if they stay there over night, having fun and spending time with my children is the most important thing and from now on, I will be making sure I try my damnedest to slow down the time and just take in each moment, knowing that this is the last time that any of these firsts will happen for me.