27 September 2015

How To Get Your Baby To Sleep Through The Night

You can't! 

Well that was a short post, now on to something fun. Oh, I'd better explain myself eh?!...

Some babies don't sleep. They just don't. 

You will read about all these miracle cures to getting a good nights sleep, but at the end of the day, if your baby isn't ready to sleep through, nothing will help him. Not even selling your soul to the devil himself. 

To be honest, most babies won't sleep through when teeny tiny (unless you are one of those lucky parents... I don't like you and all that sleep you're getting!) but I think that a lot of people read these parenting books and magazines which give tips and 'sure fire ways' and assume they'll be back to getting a restful night in no time. 

And being really honest right now, some babies just aren't capable of it. Sleeping through the night that is. And it's nothing to do with your parenting skills, you don't have a faulty baby that needs returning to the stork, it's just the way things are sometimes. Some babies just aren't ready to have a full uninterrupted night. 

You can try ways to help but these may just leave you feeling deflated if they don't work. Okay, you may be the lucky one that catches a break with one of the strategies, but most don't work as like I said above, your baby isn't ready and nothing will help them get those zzz's. 

I recently read an article about trying to get babies to sleep through and it made me angry (which is the main reason that I wrote this post). Apparently, some expert was saying that all babies are capable of sleeping through the night from the age of 3 months. 

I call bull!

I don't agree at all. I totally and utterly disagree with that and here's why. 

A baby is not a robot that follows along a pathway set out by some doctor and they'll all play along and sleep at night and do every milestone at exactly the same time as other babies. They grow differently, they learn differently and, as I said above, some babies just cannot sleep through the night.

And have you had a baby with colic? Trying to get a colicy baby to sleep at all is hard work let alone getting them to sleep all night. 

The article I read goes on to say that it's not a case of letting your baby cry it out and ignoring them but actually it was. As I read more it became apparent that this was exactly what was happening. 

Now tell me, if your baby cried at 3 month old. Could you ignore him? I sure couldn't. And I wouldn't either. 

So in summary, if your baby doesn't sleep through the night, don't feel like a failure because some post or book tells you that your baby should be. Just remember that no amount of controlled crying or cutting down the amount of milk you give during the night, if your baby wants to wake he will do regardless. 

And you know what, they'll sleep through... eventually... 

18 comments:

  1. my baby cried and never slept though still doesnt but early days where hard as she is lactose intollerent and in pain. Also I learned never wake a sleeping baby it so isnt worthr it. Oh and another thing I hate it when everyone says sleep when baby sleep...sure and ill leave my other child a toddler to fend for herself xx

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    1. I'm exactly the same, how do we get stuff done if we're to sleep when they do x

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  2. They do sleep eventually! Having said that, my 3 year old (soon to be 4) tried EVERYTHING to stay up tonight!

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    1. My 6 year old is the same sometimes and he was the worst sleeper as a baby x

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  3. Stephanie Waters23 August 2015 at 07:37

    Ahah I love this post! I used to read all the baby books and thought I was a failure when my son didn't follow then exactly. Glad to someone writing the opposite side, the truth xxx

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    1. Thank you for that, I think a lot of new mums feel this way and it's sad to think that they feel this way x

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  4. Yes, yes, YES!!!! My two year old still doesn't sleep through - and actually, I'm almost 30 and don't sleep through every night. I hate all these baby books that tell you your baby will be sleeping through by 12 weeks. Most don't! Thanks for linking up to #SuperparentSaturday

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    1. Thank you for commenting. I think people forget that babies are just like us, as we struggle sometimes, so do they x

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  5. I was lucky as both of mine slept through from being just a few weeks old. Oscar was definitely the most unsettled of the two of them. Tonight for example he's refused to go to bed, and I know that means an early morning with him too as for some reason the less sleep he has the earlier he gets up! Lol. I try not to stress about it too much as sometimes I just can't nod off or I wake up at silly a.m and can't get back to sleep

    Louise x

    With love from Lou

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    1. I think people forget that children are just like us and sometimes just struggle to sleep x

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  6. Hi, thanks for your post. I'd say that anyone who claims that their baby sleeps through the night at less than 6 months has clearly redefined the term night....to be three hours during the day or something like that. There is so much pressure, it is what we dream of, but actually we should probably spend more time consoling ourselves that it just isn't going to happen instead of trying to tell ourselves that it should.

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    1. Exactly, I think people just assume that the baby will eventually sleep and sometimes it just doesn't happen x

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  7. Sorry, I came from #bestandworst

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  8. I've got all this to look forward to again and I've forgotten what the boys were like as newborns. My sister recently had a little boy and the only way he would sleep was on her for about 6 weeks. She then bought a sleepyhead and this completely changed him.
    Babies are individuals you can't make them sleep, just got to do what's best for you and your family.

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    1. Newborns are so precious aren't they, always wanting to be with mum!

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  9. Interesting post. I do think that all children area capable of sleeping through the night but it depends how strong you are I think to not respond at the first cry. I've been pretty lucky with my 2, my son is just like his father and loves his sleep but my 4 month old is more easily woken and sometimes wakes up in the night, that been said though she does sleep through most of the time. I'm very much one for letting them self settle although I know that isn't for everyone. Always good to strike a debate, thanks for sharing a good post with the #bestandworst hope you'll pop by again! If you could add our badge at the end that would be fab!

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  10. I think by the time you've tried all these magic tricks, your child is probably of the age where they will start to sleep through anyway! and then tada... one of these tricks magically worked ;) Babies and all do children do everything at their own pace no matter what you do, and that's that! Well done for all the Jammy parents that have gotten away with a good night's sleep from day one!

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