When it comes to having a newborn, there are so many things that we all do, that we possibly don't know is the 'done thing' to do. We don't talk about it in case other people think we're stupid or weird and instead keep it inside wondering how we got it all so wrong.
Well I'm here to tell you that you're not wrong, you're not weird or stupid. Every parent goes through this part of parenting and here is my list of 10 things that everyone with a newborn is guilty of doing...
1. Poking your baby to make sure they're still breathing.
Yes, everyone does this! You know that point where you peek over the side of the moses basket and give your baby a little prod, just to check. I used to hold my hand over my babies chests too to see if I could feel them breathing.
2. Having an emotional meltdown.
A couple of week in, you'll be thinking that it's a doddle. You don't know why people say having a newborn is hard, and then something will happen. It could be something small like being woken up during the night or a full-on nappy explosion. Something will happen though and you'll have an 'I can't do this' moment. Don't worry, hold in there and the feeling will pass. Sometimes all the emotion, all the hormones mixed with being so, so tired can affect you in this way.
3. Using your baby as an excuse.
'Oh, you want me to come round to yours?, I'm sorry but the baby has a sniffle so I just couldn't leave him at this moment.' Yes, that is a big fat fib, but sometimes our babies are the best excuses!
4. Already judging other parents.
We all say that we wont do this, but in fact, we all do. You could be sat on the bus giving a discerning look as a baby is being fed chocolate or walking past McDonald's pointing out all the children that are in there and just how bad it is for them. Everyone has different parenting styles and what is normal to you may be weird to someone else. So just remember, as you are judging someone, there is probably someone judging you too.
5. Social media surge.
Oh yes, a baby has been born. You know how I know this? Because there are about 5 million and 33 photos posted to Facebook every 30 seconds just so I don't miss out on the first time they smile, roll over, fart... yes, we all do this!
6. Taking arty photos of your baby’s fingers and toes.
Because nothing says 'I love my baby' like a black and white photo of them holding your finger. Come on, that's just what love is!
7. Trying to act in control of the situation when you visit your GP/Health Visitor.
The first few weeks of a baby's life is so hectic. Not only are you learning about your baby but you have a million appointments to go to with the midwife, health visitor and your 6 weeks check with your GP. Trying to hold it together and act sane during these appointments is hard, especially when you've had no sleep and still have yesterdays sick ridden clothing on.
8. Trusting some family members more than others to hold the baby.
There is that one person that you would trust with you baby just a little more than anyone else. And then, on the other hand, there is the total opposite of the person that you would never leave your child with, and when they ask you have to make all sorts of excuses as to why your baby just HAS to come with you because you just couldn't bare to be away from them.
9. Having to suppress the urge to whack the heck out of people who ask how much sleep you're getting.
Newborns just don't sleep, they just don't so assume that whilst I have a baby under the age of 1 (maybe up to the age of 5!!!) that I have had no sleep and just don't ask.
I'm sure we've all gone through the stress of waking in the night for the 5th time in the past 4 hours and feel like 'This isn't happening. This IS NOT HAPPENING!!! This is some horrible dream. I'm going to be forever sleep-deprived until I die a slow, sleep-deprived death, curled up in a ball on the floor.' Yep, that feeling. But it does pass... eventually!
10. And lastly, just loving your baby
No matter how we judge each other, how your baby sleeps or whether you do actually have a hold on the situation, we all love our children and want the best for them. So even if you haven't had a full nights sleep for the past 6 years (that's me!) you know that they are your world and will always come first, no matter what!