27 November 2013

Wednesday Words - A Mother

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Today I am basing my Wednesday Words on something I hear 2 girls talking about on the bus a few days ago. They were talking about one of their friends and about how she had recently suffered a miscarriage. I was shocked and horrified to hear supposed 'friends' saying these sorts of things:

'Who cares, it wasn't a real baby'
'It wasn't born so it doesn't matter'
'It's not as if she has met it'
'She already has one kid so I'm sure she'll get over it'

Who says these sorts of things? Why would you talk about a friend like that?

Miscarriage is such a horrible thing and you need support when you are going through it not uncalled for comments.

It would have been my due date on the 1st December (this coming Sunday) and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about the baby, the miscarriage, the pain...

A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, 
but by the love she holds in her heart.
- Franchesca Cox

Wednesday Words


  1. :( I will never understand some people when it comes to such disgusting comments regarding loosing a child.

  2. Disgusting!! They have obviously never been through a miscarriage...They are not friends at all!!
    Thinking of you x

  3. that's horrible to hear people speaking like that, very sad.

  4. Miscarriage is a personal / family and community event / experience :- to varying degrees. It may mean different things to different people, depending on their experience.
    It is sad to hear of people speaking negatively of another/ others. There is an old saying :- "If you haven't anything nice to say, Don't say anything at all". Also what about RESPECT for themselves and others.
    I believe I have heard it said that RESPECT is being discussed and encouraged within schools /education nowadays.

    Rachel Craig

  5. I can't imagine that... You are a mother from the moment you fall pregnant - no matter if that baby comes to term it can't stop the feelings that come with knowing that you hold a life within you. :( z

  6. How sad and lacking in empathy. :(

  7. Many women miscarry, especially early on in the pregnancy, but that doesn't lessen the pain for most. It even hurts the man in our lives who may be excitedly looking forward to a baby. Lovely words by Franchesca Cox.

  8. Quality, not quantity? Each experience shapes and moulds us for the life we live. Love is enduring

    Rachel Craig

  9. How heartless and inhuman! You don't even need to be a mother to realise that those words are just so wrong! :(

  10. There really are some ignorant people in this world. They probably show no compassion, because they have never known what it is to be a mother, never loved with all their heart, like a mother does. I am so sorry to hear you are struggling with your loss. I have suffered two miscarriages in the past. It get's easier to accept with time, but you will always remember and wonder. Big hugs to you, and thankyou for linking up such a beautiful quote. xx