30 January 2013

Wednesday Words - Leaving Home


Thinking about when my boys grow up, I do get a little upset that at some point they wont need me as they do now. As the saying goes:

A son is a son till he takes a wife, a daughter's a 
daughter the rest of her life!

This is on the basis that a son will rely on his mum until he gets married, after that time, his wife will fill the space and will do the duties that his mum currently does. Whereas a daughter will always rely on their mum and will always need her. 

Do you agree or disagree with this saying?

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15 comments:

  1. I know that I always relied on my mom when she was here.
    I think that too our moms we're always their little baby so it works both way :)
    Thanks for sharing x

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    1. Thanks for commenting, I know my boys will always be my babies :-)

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  2. I think it's a bit more complicated than that. I think girls separate slightly earlier on, around 12 or 13, whereas boys don't pull away until around 15. Girls then just maintain their chosen level of detachedness and independence forever, whereas boys continue to grow away from you as they get girlfriends and partners. As I've yet to get any further I can only imagine that it is probably true that they will then rely on their partner to fill your gap when that time comes - and frankly thank goodness for that because it seems likely that if they don't find a life partner then they'll be ruining your peace and expecting you to run around after them forever! :D

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    1. I guess your right. I really don't want to be picking up after my sons when they're 30 odd :-) Thanks for commenting

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  3. I don't have a son but I definitely feel that way about my mum. As you know, I've been in hospital... And I needed my mum more than anyone else. But if hubs was ill, he would want me, rather than his mum. Xx

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    1. I guess that does show how much the statement is true then. Most men would want their partners with them :-)

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  4. Thanks for taking part in Wednesday Words! :) Xx

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  5. This is very interesting and as someone who is due to give birth soon it is something I havent really thought about. I think it all depends who you are as a person and your family background. I don't neccessarily feel I need and rely on my Mum as much as others can do - my sister is much more like this than me. Also my partner is very close to his Mum as she brought him up as a single mother. I don't feel I in any way replace his Mum and I certainly don't do all the 'duties' a Mum does for him! (I dont even know where the iron is...!!) I think the bonds we have with our parents last throughout our lives and are always special to us regardless of our other relationships.

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    1. Thanks for commenting. I guess it's 50/50, true for your sister but not you :-)

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  6. At the moment I agree with that, but I hope that no matter who Tigger ends up with in life that we remain close

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    1. I hope the same :-) Thanks for commenting

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  7. I, too, think that this one is a bit complex. My closeness to my mother became different, but not less. I certainly knew that she still cared a lot for me, and I tried to return that.

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    1. Thanks for commenting. I guess it's more, who does the tea, washing, cleaning now etc By the way, I'm not saying that you don't help at all :-)

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  8. If they are anything like me they will always end up back at home probably more than my Mum would like ;) lol x

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